Transform Your Pain into Healing: Essential Support for Those Affected by Infidelity

If you have recently discovered that your spouse has been unfaithful - whether through an affair or engaging with sex workers - you may be feeling lost, heartbroken, and unsure of where to turn. It is crucial to talk to someone who understands your pain and will not diminish your feelings or suggest you simply “get over it.” You are not to blame. Did you know that 41% of married women experience infidelity? Of those affected, a staggering 70% endure trauma as a result of this betrayal. That’s an overwhelming number of women facing deep emotional pain. If your vision of a happy life has been destroyed, know that you have the strength to heal and make empowering choices for yourself and your family.

Common Responses to Betrayal:

Many partners describe the following feelings upon discovering betrayal:

  • A profound sense of safety and trust shattered

  • Intense anger and feelings of betrayal

  • Shock at the reality of what is happening

  • Doubts about the authenticity of the entire relationship

  • Self-blame and feelings of guilt about preventing this

  • The impulse to leave the relationship without assessing its potential for recovery

  • Symptoms like anxiety, panic attacks, depression, nightmares, headaches, and muscle pain

  • Intrusive thoughts about the betrayal, including vivid images of their partner with others

  • Coping mechanisms that may involve alcohol abuse, overeating, overspending, or other unhealthy behaviors

It is important to note that the causes and recovery processes differ significantly between affairs and sex addiction. Whatever the situation, support is available, and healing is possible.

Join Our Empowering Support Network

To aid those navigating these painfully challenging experiences, I am pleased to offer an online Betrayal Trauma Group designed for women, convening every spring and fall. This group fosters a safe and nurturing environment for participants to share their experiences, connect with others who understand their pain, and acquire valuable tools and resources for healing and resilience.

Let’s work together to reclaim your strength and clarity. Your path to healing starts here.